KNOWING WHOM TO APPROACH FOR SHELTER
– Radhakrishnan Pillai
(This weekly column will explore the relevance and application of Principles and Strategies of Chanakya as discussed in his 3rd Century BC treatise, Kautilyas Arthashastra, in Todays Corporate World)
Everyone goes through tough times, especially businessmen. They venture into unknown territories, face financial problems, natural calamities, death or the exit of a very important partner all of which can strike at any moment.
A student of management once asked Chanakya a very important question on this matter. And, in Kautilyas Arthashastra, the exchange gives us a reply:
He to whom he may be dear, or he who may be dear to him which one among these two should he approach for shelter?
(Chanakyas reply) He should go to him he may be dear. This is the best course of seeking shelter (7.2.25)
We generally consider that, during difficult times, its our near and dear ones who will help us. And here, as we are going to ask them for help (shelter), Chanakya makes us think! Are you dear to that person, or the person is dear to you? Only approach the person who considers you as dear to him, otherwise you will be disappointed.
Whats the difference? Let us see in detail:
WHEN YOU ARE DEAR TO A PERSON
This is a great achievement. Swami Chinmayananda says, To love and be loved is the greatest achievement of life. You may have touched the hearts of some people in a special way, which develops a special respect for you. If you are a teacher, you will understand this. If someone considers you dear to him, then there is no question of him refusing shelter during troubled times. His house may be small, and his pocket may not be deep, but he will go that extra mile to accommodate and help you. This person will always be ready to help you, whatever be the reason for your failure.
WHEN A PERSON IS DEAR TO YOU
This is generally a one-way traffic. YOU consider a person as dear to you. But does he? You are assuming something which may not be a reality. Thus, you may consider a person very close to you, and may even go to him for help. But you could come back disappointed as he never considered you dear to him. Its possible you had extended some help to him, but he may not consider that as something great. To know this difference is very important. Only then can you seek shelter.
ITS NOT EASY TO BE A DEAR TO ALL
Yes, its not easy to win everyones hearts. How do you know whom you have become a dear to? There is only one solution: During your good times, help everyone. Great people never close the door on any seeker. Probably during this process, without being aware, you might touch someones heart. And it is natures law that, during troubled times, this forgotten person will give you shelter.
(The author is a management consultant and trainer. He is the director of ATMA DARSHAN, a company that conducts spiritual tours. He is available through e mail at radhakrishnan@atmadarshan.com)